This is something that has always rubbed me the wrong way. Military wives, girlfriends, etc. referring to themselves as "the silent ranks." It just doesn't make sense in my mind. You are obviously not silent, and you hold NO rank in the military.
Now, let's not mistake this for annoyance at "motto" SOs. I don't have a problem if you're motto. Wear all the Military stuff you want, trick your ride out, I'm a rep. for a company that makes military accessories for crying out loud! That is not the issue!
Its girls and women (I've never seen the men of women soldiers do this) who think being a wife (etc) is the "toughest job in the _______". Really? Are you over in the middle east with the potential of getting blown up? No. Did you sign the contract? No. Did you go through training? No.
Yes, having a man in the military is one of the hardest things to deal with. But being a wife of a soldier, Marine, etc, is not "the hardest job". Granted, I don't have kids to take care of, and I'm not alone. I am so thankful that Bryant has not been deployed yet, but I know that could change at any time! The Guard is a little different, since he doesn't get housing and all that, but he can still deploy if he's needed. And that's scary.
Now I know all of us ladies in the "military SO community" have different views on this. Personally, I don't consider myself a "silent rank" or "having the hardest job". When he's gone it's not fun, and I for SURE do not "wear his rank" to try and get people to respect me. That's just foolish. Granted if a wife's husband, who was a higher rank than Bryant, invited us for dinner, I would show them both respect, not due to rank, but because it's the right thing to do with elder & people who you are a guest of.
I would love to have a civil, and mature discussion with anyone who has an opposing viewpoint. I'm always up for a good debate.